I think a lot. After years of trying to quiet my mind, I finally realized it might be easier to accept the disquiet and give these thoughts a home on the page. As a chronic overthinker, I like to dissect, analyze, explore, discover, and learn. This blog captures some of the topics that have been drilling deep into my psyche each week. Whether it's thinking about overthinking or a case I've been obsessively following, you'll find posts on writing, life, feelings, thoughts, ruminations and everything in between.

A blog about overthinking, writing, life, feelings, thoughts, ruminations and everything in between.

Overthink

The research shows that taking breaks and giving time to process information is fundamental for learning well, all of which I need to retrain myself to do.

Learning How to Learn Well

It’s incredibly difficult to know whether a choice is good or bad in the moment. One approach to making choices comfortably is knowing the potential consequences and being able to live with them.

Making Choices is About Living with the Consequences

After years of practice, it is still incredibly easy for me to get lost in thought and lose sight of what’s happening around me, but I now know a few tricks to stay present.

Learning to Stay Present Takes Time

The unpredictability of the future is scary, but it’s not always something to be afraid of.

Acknowledging the Uncertainty of the Future

In a world that idolizes romantic relationships, it’s important to cultivate and maintain friendships for our overall health and happiness.

My Partner’s Great, but I Need My Friends

Losing a friend is one of the hardest endings to experience that no one prepares you for.

When Friendships Grow Apart

A photo essay in honor of Norah's, my Siberian Husky, 9th birthday.

8 Years of Norah: A Photo Essay

Leaning into and accepting one’s power is a scary, challenging, and iterative learning journey.

Learning to Lean into My Power

Even though identity is an allusive and ever-changing reality, identifying and categorizing our identity is one helpful way to learn who we are.

Understanding the Smaller Parts of the Self

During a recent hike, the fear of a fellow hiker roused in me a sudden and surprising experience of fear that I am still working to overcome. 

A Sudden Moment of Fear

The creation of a genuine safe place takes conscious action from all members from the group. If all members don’t agree to actively strive for a safe place, many communities will continue to be harmed.

A Safe Place is an Action

Learning to accept the people in our lives, what they’re able to give us, set boundaries, and stick to them are a few key ways to handling any relationship.

Accepting Who People Are Leads to Happier Relationships

The incessant pressure to be “productive” is harmful, popular, and difficult to counteract despite us intuitively knowing the power of breaks and the research that confirms rest is essential.

The Turmoil Between Being Productive and Taking a Break

Our lives are impacted by a wide variety of external factors that influence who we become and what we can do before we’re born and being aware of these factors is the first step to understanding the frameworks that direct our existence.

The Multitude of External Factors Impacting Our Lives

There’s an incredible amount of information available to us daily. We can’t learn it all, but we can learn some, so choose how you spend your time wisely.

There’s So Much to Know, and Not Enough Time

Finding moments that inspire awe have positive health benefits but also help one appreciate being alive.


Experiencing Awe Helps Me Appreciate Life

Even though researcher Daniel H. Pink says it’s best to address and learn from our regrets, sometimes it’s best to prevent regrets if we have the power to.

Thoughts on Avoiding Regret

We’re all prone to thinking “what if” when something doesn’t work out, but it’s important to go easy on ourselves because we’re doing the best we can.

Overcoming the Cycle of What-if

Building a consistent and doable routine has helped me lead a happier life.

Building a Routine Saved My Mental Health

As the new year excitement winds down and it gets more and more busy, here’s how I’m finding ways to live and go easy on myself.

Finding Ways to Live When You’re Terribly Busy

Aging is scary but taking inventory of the good in life and surrounding yourself with those you love makes all the difference.

Aging is Scary, but There Are Ways to Cope

Our words and actions can make or break someone’s day. If you have the choice, choose to make someone’s day a little lighter by offering a sense of ease.

Choosing Ease Can Make Someone’s Day a Little Lighter

Obtaining financial independence is one key way to meet major life goals.

Pursuing Financial Independence to Meet My Life Goals

Time has an invariable hold on us, but, thanks to the power of perspective, we're able to control time in small ways to find hope and make positive change in our lives.


The Invariability of Time and the New Year

The difficult part about overthinking is learning how to turn one’s mind off, but it is possible by learning how to be in the moment and reframing intrusive thoughts.

An Overthinkers Journey to Resilient Thinking

Storytelling helps keep the past alive and keep the future from being distorted.

Storytelling: A Lesson Learned from Family

A meditation on loss and uncertainty during quarantine.

Loss and Uncertainty: A Meditation Under Quarantine

We live in a world that’s been constructed by those who came before us...

With Our Heads in the Clouds: Creating a New Dream for the World

We make the choice to be who we want and create the world we want to see.

Choice and Creating a Better World

Imitation is a powerful tool to help a writer find their voice when used appropriately.

The Law of Imitation 

We all have privileges we must acknowledge to make social progress this world desperately needs--even if it is hurtful and angering to do so.

Privilege Isn’t a Bad Word

Acknowledge the worth and power and holiness that is the womxn your life, and remember every day is Womxn’s Day.

Acknowledge the Womxn in Your Life

Even with all the systematic issues surrounding the classroom, teaching is worth it.

Reflections on Being Back in the Classroom

Asking questions is the way to finding and developing our perspective of the world.

Find a Perspective that Helps You Ask More Questions

Confidence is not a necessary ingredient to getting things done. Actually, we get most things done without it.

Just Like That: Moving Without Confidence

Writing is overwhelming, but it doesn't have to be if learn how to effectively learn how to break a project down, know what questions to ask and realize you don't have to write ​about everything.

Writing is Overwhelming, But It Doesn’t Have to Be

It is tempting to write about the painful aspects of life, but we must not forget the need to also write about the positive aspects no matter how self-indulgent they may feel.

A Struggle: Writing About the Positive

There is a misconception that writing is "...an art of speaking." In actuality, writing, poetry specifically, "is an art of listening," which makes listening to the world around us especially crucial.